In life, we are normally ruled by cycles, stages, timing and expectations of plans that present ourselves day by day and time by time. We accomplish them and then turn the page to the next, as this is how life is and we are just supposed to wait for these cycles to pass.
Today, reproduction can be manipulated as the existence of the anticonceptive pill allow women to develop in different personal and professional areas, delaying our desire to get pregnant.
This situation causes that we are reaching ages when our gynecologic life can be at risk and we can even have a complication on getting pregnant. The reproductive life is kind of volatile, so, at certain moment, the psychosocial environment (our environment) starts to push us about being time to have a baby and become a parent. As couple, we can also feel the family pressure, the work pressure, as well as both personal and social pressures.
It seems that, according to the world around us, the time is passing by quickly and we need to have a baby soon.
Our reactions are very varied: some of us will react in a violent way, others will just ignore the situation, others will get vulnerable or sensitive. Others can even act as nothing is going on, feeling also invaded, devastated, pressured, misunderstood, hypersensitive and guilty, situations that generate impotence and frustration.
We lose hope as we feel pointed out and questioned, we will then maybe isolate ourselves.
We are used to plan material expectations and succeeding in getting them. Part of the challenge is that we will then turn to reproduction treatment where maybe only in one of the stages we’ll be able to participate actively.
In our reproductive life, when we don’t accomplish the expectation of being a parent, some stress, anxiety and depression may appear. If they do appear, they will make a real caos changing the dynamics of normal life, messing emotionally with such a fragile area, so delicate and socially private as the sexual life is. We will feel that other couples that got together at the same timing as us are already some steps forward, with pregnancies or babies, a stage what we still don’t belong and make us question ourselves what is happening with our bodies that they are not working properly in order to get pregnant, making us feel guilty. This situation is generated for all the mentioned and analyzed above, and it is known as psychosocial pressure.
Psicóloga Claudia Dorantes Lago.
Apoyo al paciente de Centro FiVER